At 28 weeks (and 3 days) pregnant, I’m into the big 3. The third trimester. And recently my mind has been turning away from the fluffy nursery décor and cute baby clothes (very temporarily) and towards the reality of what’s to come. The Birth.
That ‘I Love Daddy’ romper is definitely cute, and the nursery is painted in the softest of greys to create a light but cosy atmosphere, but there would be no point in any of this if it weren’t for the fact that a baby needs to fill that romper and sleep in that nursery. And that baby has got to get out of me, one way or another, in a matter of weeks.
To say I’m nervous is an understatement, but that makes me no different to rest of the pregnant population. I’m not high risk and I’ve never had a bad hospital experience that I can remember, so I don’t have the fear I’m sure some women have. But I am a wimp, and when I was stung by a wasp last week and my husband commented on how calm I’d been it was the proudest moment of my week, because it really bloody hurt. And if I think that hurt, how will I deal with pushing a watermelon-sized human out of my body?
To prepare myself for birth, I’ve naturally surrounded myself by people who love to share their horror stories of how their friends birth experiences resulted in blood, tears (of the eye kind and the ripping kind), operations and painful recoveries. All really helpful ladies, it’s giving me something to focus on while I try and perfect the humming breath in pregnancy yoga.
I’m generally quite a laid back person, and have been so busy lately I’ve not really had time to dwell on any of the details which is probably for the best, but I have bought a hypnobirthing book – The Hypnobirthing Book by Katharine Graves – which comes with a CD to listen to at night (not when you’re driving, which my friend attempted and was surprised when she felt a little sleepy at the wheel!)
I’m really enjoying yoga and think I have it in me to tap into that ability to zone out and control the pain. And while my main reason for getting into hypnobirthing is to help manage the pain of labour, it’s just as much to give my baby a calm and peaceful welcome to the world. I’ve heard that that a calm Mum creates a calm baby, so I’m making an effort to be as zen as possible through pregnancy and beyond.
So, I’ve started reading the book, which sends me straight to sleep but I’m not sure if that’s the effect it’s supposed to have, but am yet to try the CD as I need to find a night where I can get to bed early enough to lie in the dark and let it sink in.
I can’t imagine my husband will be able to take it all that seriously but I’m determined to get him on board because there’s no point in me being all zen if he’s like a shit-scared hyperactive puppy.
You can take hypnobirthing classes, which I imagine are much more effective and will force the other half to get to grips with it, no matter how uncomfortable he might feel to begin with. But they’re not cheap, a few hundred pounds for a course from what I’ve heard, and it’s just not a spend I can justify, especially when it could all go tits up and baby has to come out the sun roof anyway!
So I’ll stick to the book and will get round to the CD soon, and I’ll keep you posted on how it’s going but if anyone’s done hypnobirthing before and would like to share any tips or experiences, please do as I’d love to know more!